Being niggardly or miserly is a sin just as extravagance is. Satan at times makes the wealthy not spend on the necessities of their own family members or spend on charity towards the less fortunate. Then the same people at times spend large amounts on where they are not supposed to. Our Rasulullah (sallahu Allayhi wa salam) tells us that the best wealth is spent in meeting the needs of one’s spouse, family members and dependents.
Narrated Hakim bin Hizam The Prophet said, "The upper hand is better than the lower hand (i.e. he who gives in charity is better than him who takes it). One should start giving first to his dependents. And the bestobject of charity is that which is given by a wealthy person (from the money which is left after his expenses). And whoever abstains from asking others for some financial help, Allah will give him and save him from asking others, Allah will make him self-sufficient."
Narrated Abu Huraira: A man asked the Prophet, "O Allah's Apostle! What kind of charity is the best?" He replied. "To give in charity when you are healthy and greedy hoping to be wealthy and afraid of becoming poor. Don't delay giving in charity till the time when you are on the death bed when you say, 'Give so much to so-and-so and so much to so-and so,' and at that time the property is not yours but it belongs to so-and-so (i.e. your inheritors)."I can testify to this. Whenever one is miserly and adamant on not sharing always end up being burdened by their waste and the weight of their “stuff.”
You know those people that like to give you leftovers or offer you leftovers when they are trying to get rid of it (or free themselves) from it when it already lost its appeal to you and they never thought to offer you then. Funny thing occurs right after, they INSIST you have it EVEN AFTER YOU DECLINE.
This is particularly an issue when it deals with food. People have this fear when it comes to food. They feel that if they share food they will not have enough food or if they have "enough" they will starve (its shaytan-his job is to threaten people with poverty and loss).
Ramadan is approaching and I am sure we will witness the “starving” individuals who stack plates of food under their children’s strollers meanwhile they have more food they brought from home to eat. It just amazes me! What happens when one accumulates so much food due to this thinking? it Rots!! and maybe along with it our blessings!
I've learned to make the most of my food and Alhamdulillah I have rarely have to throw out food due to rotting and I have the least amount of food from my room mates. I sometimes wonder how it is that my food lasts so long. I think its a blessing and a result that I always share my food. I honestly believe that the more we share our blessings with others the more abundant blessings become.
So we should know that our rizq (bounty) is from Allah and not from ourselves. We should also always seek refuge in Allah from