In the name of God, most Gracious, most Compassionate

In the name of God, most Gracious, most Compassionate
Al-Quran (30:30)

So direct your face toward the religion, inclining to truth. [Adhere to] the fitrah of Allah upon which He has created [all] people. No change should there be in the creation of Allah. That is the correct religion, but most of the people do not know.

فَأَقِمْ وَجْهَكَ لِلدِّينِ حَنِيفًا فِطْرَةَ اللَّهِ الَّتِي فَطَرَ النَّاسَ عَلَيْهَا لَا تَبْدِيلَ لِخَلْقِ اللَّهِ ذَلِكَ الدِّينُ الْقَيِّمُ وَلَكِنَّ أَكْثَرَ النَّاسِ لَا يَعْلَمُونَ
[Al-Imran 3:8] "[Who say], "Our Lord, let not our hearts deviate after You have guided us and grant us from Yourself mercy. Indeed, You are the Bestower."

Tuesday, February 25, 2014

What is Happiness?!

How to be happy? We often think that an IDEAL LIFE should always be filled with happiness! You think that a little more money, that new car, that husband, would give you happiness but happiness can not be everlasting when derived from such. Just observe all around you! The fame and fortune has not granted some happiness!

Happiness comes from within yourself, the condition of your soul! I always seem to forget this and often times measure my quality of my life to what I envisioned success to be for me. This makes me so miserable and ungrateful. I am slowly and painfully accepting that my plan is not happening as PLANNED and that is okay! Afterall, everything is preordained. Our Sustenance and Livelihood has all been decided however, we have to be diligent in searching for it! Its difficult to face your own expectations and the expectations you ASSUME others have of you. Two days ago I spoke to my mother and revealed how I often feel like a failure! Her words of encouragement and motivation serve to ease the pressure sometimes!

Last night I stayed up into the middle of the night to ask from Allah. I asked for guidance, patience and contentment in my life. As I looked into my life I realized how blessed I am and indeed how comfortable my life is. I love these nights although they are my last resorts to getting my Iman (faith) back. My iman gives me fortitude in this life and gives so much meaning and understanding! Often times I don't feel the energy to work towards my iman because I just need to feel my misery! I guess I hate myself sometimes that I punish myself with feeling the misery. Weird! If I could throw a spiritual tantrum I suppose I would but honestly I can't! No one can protect me from the torment of Jahanum but Allah! I have nothing if I don't have Allah in my side. Allah is the creator of the universe and all that belongs in it! How can I not side with Allah and give him my Allegiance! I'm too fearful of being destroyed and besides a life without Allah and Islam is a miserable one! My heart could never deal with such dishonesty to myself!

This dunya (world) really deceives you to thinking you can do without but subhana'Allah you will never succeed if you don't have Allah. TV although the most evil things created sometimes reveals to me how strong my faith is! Atleast my gheerah for my Deen!  For example, there is this show I watch in which this old Arab "Muslim(his name is Mohamed so yeah I am assuming)" man sometimes makes appearances. This man sports young model girlfriends on each show (commits a lot of zina  obviously) and has these mansions! I thought to myself how ridiculous he looks like a fool. No one probably takes him seriously other than want his money. His love for mansions and all this will only last until he leaves this world because the way he lives its kind of a risk he is taking in loosing his akhirah! It gives me joy that even though my little comfortable life is sometimes troubling that I can secure myself success in both this life and the next if I just fear Allah and live my live according to that! Just saying this gives me so much Happiness! Happiness that makes me want to cry...right now!

 Happiness comes from contentment and contentment only comes from gratitude to the Creator. Life is hard for everybody, from a billionaire to a orphan child in Afghanistan. We all struggle to find meaning to our lives and search for SOMETHING that will make us happy in all shapes and forms. Pure bliss does not exist in this world and until we realize this we wont be truly CONTENT with our life. Today in this world depression is defined by the absence of happiness and as a result of such mentality we get  A WHOLE lot of depressed people. Contentment grants us the ability to be happy which only comes from being a grateful servant to Allah and living ISLAM!

So last night I made a promise to myself to just work hard and that is all! my Rizq shall come to me when it is decided. In the mean time I just have to strive and calm down!

Tuesday, January 7, 2014

Do not be Sad!!

Human emotions are amazing realities of this life. Everything we see and everything around us is an action that was in one way or another influenced by an emotion. Interestingly, we are the ones whom create them. We have the power to dictate our emotions and whole state of mind yet it appears as if we are the captives and victims of them.

Sadness is a capable of soul crushing. In contrast to anger, sadness takes possession of every part of our being slowing infecting it with hopelessness. The complexity of this emotion is nothing less but deceit.  

Imam Ibn al-Qayyim once said "Grief weakens the heart and determination, & hurts the will, and nothing is more beloved to Shaytan (devil) than a sad believer”.

How many people have lost their faith due to sadness?  If we contemplate on reasons that bring about sadness we would find that most are due to not being content with the qadr of Allah! We feel sad with the passing of a loved one, our test results, feeling deficient in blessings, lacking wealth, lacking fame,  lacking education, losing opportunities, and all sorts of “I don’t have this and that!”

Remember the following Hadith of the Messenger of Allah (sallahu allayhi wa salam/peace and blessings be upon him): The happiness of the son of Adam depends on his being content with what Allah has decreed for him, and the misery of the son of Adam results from his failure to pray Istikhara, and from his discontent with what Allah has decreed for him.[1]

So what is the solution to NOT being sad?! ISLAM! I shall elaborate… Islam advises us to use our time wisely to take refuge in Allah from laziness as laziness causes an idle mind prone to sadness and evil thoughts! Realize that when you are sad, you’re not hurting anyone but yourself and it’s not going to make things better! Know that no one can take you out of it but Allah and Allah has power over all things. Contemplate on the greatness of Allah. You might feel that your circumstance is “unfair “and it was a result of your Qadr. Know that Allah does not intend hardship upon you. If everyone obeyed Allah there would not be so much injustice and oppression.  All this evil is as a result of those who do not fear or believe in Allah. If all people want is this dunya. Let it be. Do not humiliate yourself by being sad for what you don’t possess of it. At the end no one will leave this earth with any of it! Truth always prevails. Take comfort in that and that Allah loves those who are patient and you will be rewarded for your patience. Jannah and earning the pleasure of Allah is your goal! Your purpose is not being the richest person alive or most popular or most beautiful! Contemplate on the reality of this life!

It was narrated that Ibn Mas’ood (radiyallaahu `anhumaa) said, “Certain faith (yaqeen) is that you do not make the people happy by angering Allah, and that you do not envy anyone for that which Allah has provided, and that you do not blame anyone for something which Allah has not given you – since provision will not be brought on by a person’s craving after it, nor will it be repelled by a person’s disliking it. Indeed Allah through His Justice has made joy and happiness dependent upon having certain faith andContentment, and He has made worries and sorrow spring from doubt and displeasure.”

Today I was so sad and I must say Alhamdulillah for having enough iman to remind me of Allah to get me out of misery! It was only in taking refuge in Allah that I felt everything came into perspective. I can describe the feeling to being similar to when watching a sad or scary movie and feeling thankful that is not your situation.  You might be living the current situation but if you are a MUSLIM you know it’s just temporary and all you can do your best and leave the rest to Allah. It is not in your control and I take comfort in that. However, you are IN CONTROL of your thoughts and emotions. The only way you can be in control is by strengthening your iman. The stronger your iman the more control you have. May Allah make it easy for everyone battling sadness and having trouble trying to be patient!

[1] [Tirmidhi; classed as Saheeh by al-Haakim, 1/699, and al-Dhahabi agreed with him. It was classed as Hasan by al-Haafiz ibn Hajar in Fath al-Baari, 11/184]]