In the name of God, most Gracious, most Compassionate

In the name of God, most Gracious, most Compassionate
Al-Quran (30:30)

So direct your face toward the religion, inclining to truth. [Adhere to] the fitrah of Allah upon which He has created [all] people. No change should there be in the creation of Allah. That is the correct religion, but most of the people do not know.

فَأَقِمْ وَجْهَكَ لِلدِّينِ حَنِيفًا فِطْرَةَ اللَّهِ الَّتِي فَطَرَ النَّاسَ عَلَيْهَا لَا تَبْدِيلَ لِخَلْقِ اللَّهِ ذَلِكَ الدِّينُ الْقَيِّمُ وَلَكِنَّ أَكْثَرَ النَّاسِ لَا يَعْلَمُونَ
[Al-Imran 3:8] "[Who say], "Our Lord, let not our hearts deviate after You have guided us and grant us from Yourself mercy. Indeed, You are the Bestower."

Tuesday, January 7, 2014

Do not be Sad!!

Human emotions are amazing realities of this life. Everything we see and everything around us is an action that was in one way or another influenced by an emotion. Interestingly, we are the ones whom create them. We have the power to dictate our emotions and whole state of mind yet it appears as if we are the captives and victims of them.

Sadness is a capable of soul crushing. In contrast to anger, sadness takes possession of every part of our being slowing infecting it with hopelessness. The complexity of this emotion is nothing less but deceit.  

Imam Ibn al-Qayyim once said "Grief weakens the heart and determination, & hurts the will, and nothing is more beloved to Shaytan (devil) than a sad believer”.

How many people have lost their faith due to sadness?  If we contemplate on reasons that bring about sadness we would find that most are due to not being content with the qadr of Allah! We feel sad with the passing of a loved one, our test results, feeling deficient in blessings, lacking wealth, lacking fame,  lacking education, losing opportunities, and all sorts of “I don’t have this and that!”

Remember the following Hadith of the Messenger of Allah (sallahu allayhi wa salam/peace and blessings be upon him): The happiness of the son of Adam depends on his being content with what Allah has decreed for him, and the misery of the son of Adam results from his failure to pray Istikhara, and from his discontent with what Allah has decreed for him.[1]

So what is the solution to NOT being sad?! ISLAM! I shall elaborate… Islam advises us to use our time wisely to take refuge in Allah from laziness as laziness causes an idle mind prone to sadness and evil thoughts! Realize that when you are sad, you’re not hurting anyone but yourself and it’s not going to make things better! Know that no one can take you out of it but Allah and Allah has power over all things. Contemplate on the greatness of Allah. You might feel that your circumstance is “unfair “and it was a result of your Qadr. Know that Allah does not intend hardship upon you. If everyone obeyed Allah there would not be so much injustice and oppression.  All this evil is as a result of those who do not fear or believe in Allah. If all people want is this dunya. Let it be. Do not humiliate yourself by being sad for what you don’t possess of it. At the end no one will leave this earth with any of it! Truth always prevails. Take comfort in that and that Allah loves those who are patient and you will be rewarded for your patience. Jannah and earning the pleasure of Allah is your goal! Your purpose is not being the richest person alive or most popular or most beautiful! Contemplate on the reality of this life!

It was narrated that Ibn Mas’ood (radiyallaahu `anhumaa) said, “Certain faith (yaqeen) is that you do not make the people happy by angering Allah, and that you do not envy anyone for that which Allah has provided, and that you do not blame anyone for something which Allah has not given you – since provision will not be brought on by a person’s craving after it, nor will it be repelled by a person’s disliking it. Indeed Allah through His Justice has made joy and happiness dependent upon having certain faith andContentment, and He has made worries and sorrow spring from doubt and displeasure.”

Today I was so sad and I must say Alhamdulillah for having enough iman to remind me of Allah to get me out of misery! It was only in taking refuge in Allah that I felt everything came into perspective. I can describe the feeling to being similar to when watching a sad or scary movie and feeling thankful that is not your situation.  You might be living the current situation but if you are a MUSLIM you know it’s just temporary and all you can do your best and leave the rest to Allah. It is not in your control and I take comfort in that. However, you are IN CONTROL of your thoughts and emotions. The only way you can be in control is by strengthening your iman. The stronger your iman the more control you have. May Allah make it easy for everyone battling sadness and having trouble trying to be patient!

[1] [Tirmidhi; classed as Saheeh by al-Haakim, 1/699, and al-Dhahabi agreed with him. It was classed as Hasan by al-Haafiz ibn Hajar in Fath al-Baari, 11/184]]